We are all social beings. Relationships play a key role in our well-being. Our brains have been wired in such a way that we make connections easily and we do not let go easily when it comes to relationships.
Creating a loving and lasting relationship is not easy to come by. How do two people with varied interests come together and marry, create and maintain a mutually happy relationship? Let’s look at six secrets that are the key to building happy relationships.
1. Know Each Other
As you start a relationship and spend time with each other, you will get to know the likes and hates of a person. Sometimes, it is good to talk and understand about your partner’s preferences on things that matter. Get to know their desires, bucket list, their professional goals, personal goals, friends, cuisines and share yours with them. It is a great exercise to share or let them experience what you like so that if they like it too, it’s something you can do together. It is not necessary to know it all in the first week of relationship but sooner you know, the better.
2. Give Attention
We are always looking for attention and it is an innate thing for a human being. Spending time and giving attention to your better half can go a long way in creating a happy and long relationship. It is something that you can give for free and the more sincere you are, it is better. Listening is a key skill not just in business but also in relationships. Understand what they consider as attention and give just that. Sometimes the definition of attention can vary from person to person.
3. Sharing is caring
It starts with self-disclosure. Share your problems with your partner. Understand if something is bothering them and try to help them solve their problem while they do the same to you. You should also share the household chores with them so that you get to spend a lot of time together daily. It might be boring stuff but when two people are on the job, it gets over quickly and it is the perfect time to share with each other on how your day was.
4. Show your Love
Yes. We love each other and it is a given thing when we commit for a life-long relationship but it’s important to show your love. It’s a subconscious ask and as humans, we yearn for love and even the slightest exhibit of love can make us very happy. It can be as simple as giving an honest compliment or surprising them with a special dinner cooked by you. It is not the big things that matter but the small things like honest words and efforts that make a difference to your relationship.
5. Talk it out
Whenever there is a conflict or an argument, you might feel walking away might help or ease the situation. But it’s not true. It is better to face the situation and share your point of view without getting carried away. When you talk it out, it is over. Human brains are super active when it comes to assuming and believing when there is no clarity. So if you can make your partner understand your point of view and listen to theirs, you might shake hands and get it over with. Keeping it to yourself will only make the feeling stronger and you might vent it out on another day.
There is no one size fits all approach when it comes to relationships. Every relationship is different and that’s the best thing about relationships. It teaches us a lot about ourselves in the process and we become a better version of ourselves. A long lasting relationship is the greatest gift you can give yourself and doing some home work and hard work to make it stronger is what your relationship deserves.